Resolutions You Owe Yourself in 2020

I'm not an inspirational writer by any means let alone a believer in New Years resolutions. I haven't gone to the gym in months & nothing is stopping me from ordering a huge pizza on weekend nights. However, I thought it'd be alright if I posted a little out of the norm.

I created this page for us women (or men) to share products or tactics for a variety of things. Whether it be beauty or health. And my biggest realization is how important it is as women (or men) to lift each other up. Advertising is noisy, it tells us we need to look, think, and act a certain way. It's overwhelming and uncanny. These are some simple habits that could really turn our mentalities towards positive resolutions this year and every year.

1. Uplift not tear down. Give a Compliment Every Day.

Everyone struggles with this in some way shape or form. Not because we don't want to see our friends and family happy, but because ads have a way of convincing us to always want MORE rather than feeling CONTENT. Advertisers make a lot of money on us because they're always convincing us we aren't quite good enough, but we will be once we buy this or that.

It's already hard enough being surrounded by it, there is no reason why we all shouldn't be on each other's teams. Have I made a catty comment before out of pure insecurity ABSOLUTELY. Not a single person on this earth could not raise a hand to that. Did it make me feel better? No. Growing up this has been one of the most important things I think is key to happiness. The more you compliment someone else, i promise the better we feel about ourselves. Those who tear down are truly insecure with themselves.

2. Spend Time Alone. Learn To Say No

I had the worst damn FOMO in high school and most of college. I was always go go go because I could never say no. I felt guilty if i made plans with a friend and suddenly felt exhausted after an 8 hour shift at work. I'd force myself to go out or people please and it never benefited me because then my grades or work would suffer because i was tired. I still prefer to be busy but I've learned it's okay to say no. Your alone time is valuable and necessary. Go on a walk, binge watch a netflix show, or do something you enjoy alone. When you can become content and happy with your own thoughts and your own company it will only benefit all the other relationships in your life.

3. Be More Present.

I used to be so focused on landing the best job, in the best city, and in a rush to make sure my own checklist of my life timeline was falling in order. Helloooo anxiety. But I think the best thing i've learned and i wish i had known in college was how important it was to be content and enjoying the present rather than worrying about the future. Everything works out the way it is meant to. Your first job probably wont be your dream job. You might hate the first apartment you live in. And you may even not love the first city you work in. But when i catch myself worrying about the future i'm not enjoying the present. Learning to find positive aspects in every present moment is the best way to feel like you are in control of your own life.